A BAG OF NAILS (All these teachings come from Buddhism)
Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the first day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say 'I'm sorry', the wound is still there."
How to deal with anger?
*As His Holiness the Dalai Lama mentioned:
"When reason ends, then anger begins. Therefore, anger is a sign of weakness."
Is anger or hatred ever justified? A direct answer from Allan Wallace in 'Tibetan Buddhism from the Ground up':
"'Righteous hatred' is in the same category as 'righteous cancer'or 'righteous tuberculosis'. All of them are absurd concepts."
This does not mean that one should never take action against aggression or injustice! Instead, one should try to develop an inner calmness and insight to deal with these situations in an appropriate way. We all know that anger and aggression give rise to anger and aggression. One could say that there are three ways to get rid of anger: kill the opponent, kill yourself or kill the anger - which one makes most sense to you?"*
Patience is the antidote
Patience is the main antidote to anger. As common wisdom says: just count to 100... During this time, any of the below methods can be effective. The most effective method will depend on the actual situation. Especially in our age of rush and intense change, patience may not be seen as a positive quality, but take a minute to think impatience can easily give rise to a general feeling of anger.
Patience is like a beautiful ornament. When you become a person with great patience, it brings a certain element of charm to your life. You are loved by others, and you give no problems to your friends. You bring an element of joy, happiness, and calmness to other people's lives - your friends, your family, and the community. You do not have to ask to be accepted; everyone longs for your presence. Everyone looks up to you and respects you, not because you have worked for that or expected it, not because you were competing for their favor, but simply because of the nature of patience. You are respected and trusted, and you acquire dignity with the practice of patience. When you are honored, it is with sincerity, and it is something you can live up to.
"Just hearing about patience does not mean you are experiencing it now or will easily develop it. To lay the ground for training the mind, you must first tame the mind. To tame the mind, it is extremely important to do the basic shamata [tranquility meditation, calm abiding] practice, which develops calmness and tranquility. Then you can add the practice of patience, understanding the benefits of patience and reminding yourself to take advantage of the available antidotes."
ANTIDOTE 1 - Patience. Patience is the main antidote to anger. As common wisdom says: just count to 100... During this time, any of the below methods can be effective. The most effective method will depend on the actual situation. Especially in our age of rush and intense change, patience may not be seen as a positive quality, but take a minute to think impatience can easily give rise to a general feeling of anger.
ANTIDOTE 2 - Realisation of the Noble Truth of Suffering. Once one understands that problems and frustration is a basic fact of life, it can reduce our impatience with our own unrealistic expectations. In other words: nothing is perfect, so don't expect it. If I believe that things should be perfect, it is almost unavoidable to feel disappointed and hurt.
ANTIDOTE 3 - Understanding Karma. As explained in the page on Karma, the real reasons for our problems are our own actions, which are in turn caused by our own negative states of mind. If someone makes us angry, it can have a sobering effect if we dare to think that the real reasons for this situation are our own past actions, and the person is just a circumstance for our own karma to ripen.
ANTIDOTE 4 - Changing or Accepting. Basically, we can find ourselves in two types of unpleasant situations: ones we can change and ones we cannot change. - If I can change the situation, I should do something about it instead of getting all worked-up and angry. Not acting in such a situation will cause frustration in the end. - If I cannot change the situation, I will have to accept it. If I don't, it will only lead to frustration and a negative and unpleasant state of mind, which will make the situation only worse. For some reasons unclear to me, Westerners (including myself) appear to have big problems with accepting unpleasant situations which we cannot change. Could this be a result of impatience (a form of anger) with imperfection (an unrealistic expectation)?
In 1994 Guns & Roses walked in an hour later in the restaurant where I was working in L.A. (Ca' Del Sole Italian). We kept the kitchen open late for them. The first stop was at the bar where they had a few drinks before their meal. I could not believe it: The Guns & Roses right there, before my eyes
In 1994 I lived in the same house with Paul Rudd. It's funny and great to see how far he went.Great to see you made it Paul. Remember when you walked in on the day of the Oakridge Earthquake with your radio and asked "May I come in?"
Heroes do not make noise, but they are ready to give their own lives like Victoria did yesterday. The darkness will be taken over by the light and there are many people that would give up their lives for their children. We must protect their future.
Thank you Victoria, your Life was really worth living.
November 9 1989 an historical moment in Europe, the Berlin Wall begins to crumble.
As I heard the news on the radio I jumped on my car with my camera gear and drove for seventeen hours from Venice to Berlin. When I got there the situation was pretty confused. The "Vopos" the military patrolling the wall, not knowing what to do yet. People on the Western side of the Wall assembling to see what was going on, started to bang on the wall with hammers and bare hands. A breech trough the wall was opened near the Brandenburg Squareand people from the Eastern part of the Wall started to come West by the hundreds.
What a great emotion for a photographer to witness history in the making.
Berlin Wall November the 9th 1989 The story behind the photo.
As I heard on the news that the #BerlinWall was going down I had no hesitation. I grabbed my two cameras (Nikon FM2 and Nikon F3) my passport and my car. I drove seventeen hours from #Venice to #Berlin This is one of my favourite shots on that day, The #Wall was still standing. There were breaches everywhere like this one and scores of people from the Eastern side (behind the guards) were walking on this side, greeted by the people of West Berlin. The #Vopos , the soldiers who guarded the Wall for half a Century appeared somehow confused. They were trained to shoot at people trying to escape, in the past. Now they stood there, helplessly without knowing what to do, awaiting for orders. Soon they will receive the final order to let the people go. The Wall was teared down. History was made. I loved to be there.
Here I am with all my cameras and press passes back a few years ago. Nothing could stop me, not even the Florida's Alligators.(In 1986 I fell into the Everglades' waters as I was shooting on assignment trying to capture the wildlife and made it out alive).(http://goo.gl/lOfohZ) if passion drives your choices the only one who can stop yourself for achieving your dream is yourself. Nobody else can be an obstacle .
I felt from day one that becoming a photojournalist was not going to be a walk in the park. I conceived it more as a steep an high mountain to climb, full of difficulties.
The reward is great though. As the dream comes true and you proceed to the top you'll see a panorama that is more and more beautiful.
I tried to always keep myself as humble as I could. I could shoot the Pope, or the President of the USA or Russia, Armani, Versace, Ray Charles or Prince Charles; the next day I would go to work for the newspaper that hired me to cover the local page and sent me to a local street fair. I enjoyed both shooting, for, I learned in my darkroom that the homeless people, kings queens and actors, popes and dishwashers look just the same when you hold up the negative in the darkroom: there is no difference.
We are all human beings (but should have more consideration for animals) We live in the same spaceship earth that is becoming smaller and smaller as technology allows us to reach out to one another in ways impossible to even think when this photo was taken about twenty years ago.
Dreams are the real core of our lives. If our dream becomes real, life will seem a lot more beautiful and full of wonderful surprises and gifts (no, I didn't say money...) Money will eventually come and go but the carving in one's character stays there forever. Dreams and Passion are the true keys to serenity. If one adds to "passion" the prefix com, it will spell Compassion and serenity will become Happiness, trough the sharing of our knowledge,passions and dreams with others, so that they may also dream.
Samantha will be sent with four other astronauts to the ISS where she will spend six months experimenting . Join me on a live Hangout where she will talk about her new great challange. She was chosen among thousands of candidates for the 2014 mission.
You are wonderful Francis.Keep up the great job. This world needs more people like you you just made it into my #oneinamillioncircle for the courage you show on this video to share your feelings and life's struggles-
#Cortina#CortinaDampezzo#Veneto#Italy Cortina d'Ampezzo was the site of the 1956 Winter Olympic Games. A very special place for me and my family. Here my parents fell in love in 1952 as my dad was recovering in a local hospital after coming back from a Nazi camp in Germany. Fifty years later I met my beloved wife Francesca here. We are now married for fourteen years. Saturday we took the two hours ride from my hometown near Venice and came up to see the snow. It was raining when we left the house, but I promised my daughter I would show her the snow falling (see the video on other post here https://plus.google.com/115135005437142391944/posts/HEPSgTrYQfX) What a wonderful place to ski in the Winter and hike in the Summer.
"Wanna go shoot a great Jazz player?" Paul asked me. "Sure, why not" I replied. I had nothing special to do and I was always tickled by the atmosphere of Jazz Clubs, even if I did not know the performer. No flash allowed. It was always a great challange to see how far I could push my ISO in dim or available light.
Chet was playing at "The Tag" a small jazz club just outside #Venice in #Mestre
I got there early, and met +Paolo Gant at the door. As I entered the club I was surprised by its size. It was small. It could probably sit less than one hundred people.
The year was 1988. Chet was about to die two months later in #Amsterdam .
Paolo and I kneeled just in front of the first row of old style wooden chairs and waited for him to play.
When he started his performance I was so close to him that if I mounted a 200 mm zoom-lens I would have probably bumped into his #trumpet
As he played I was really fascinated by his powerful ways. He played smoothly, without missing a single note. He was high and the smell of the weed that came from the backstage on the pause of his performance told many a story about his controversial life.
Coming out from the pause he had a bier on his hand and that heavy smoke stench I could smell easily, given the short distance.
I thought" Now he is going to miss a few notes" He sat on the high stool and placed the trumpet on his mouth. He played beautifully without a single mistake.
I realized that that trumpet was like an anchor to him, the anchor he clinched to so closely, with immense passion. I realized that his music, his trumpet was keeping him straight even though he was as high as a kite.
This picture is a tribute to his great music and passion. I don't care about the mistakes he might have made in his life. We all have our faults. What I learned that day by going to that club was priceless.
I saw a great Jazz player. Who played great music, his music,his talent, his passion were tangible. I saw a great man
Marcellino#Venice 1986. this is the best homeless person I have ever met in my life (it's on my +Sharing is Caring on G+ page profile photo as well) His name was Marcellino.
As I was commuting daily to venice from my hometown I would meet him just outside the train station of S.Lucia in Venice. I spoke to him a few times and we became friends.
He told me he was a piano teacher from Turin but I never asked or either he told me how he ended up there, sleeping outside, no food no clothes. He had a great deal of dignity and would never ask me for money, even though he wouldn't refuse it if I gave it to him.
I offered him shelter through the local social services. He refused. He'd rather be outside by himself.
When one last time I searched for him, he wasn't there anymore. The police officer at the station who knew him as well told me that he quietly passed away. I always kept Marcellino in my heart, I always will, as a wonderful "homeless", as a true Angel I ran into during my first years as a photographer
A tutti i Gplussers Italiani Per oltre un anno e mezzo ho postato, "hangoutato" plussato e sherato in English. Mi sono reso conto di avere pochissimi Italiani nelle mie cerchie. Sto preparando tre cerchie di Italiani su +Google+ e se volete sarò felice di includervi . Ho circa 3mila posti.... scegliete tra le seguenti categorie, vi includerò senz'altro.
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+Google+ can now turn your action photos into this. A ghost image before the actual shot and the effect is really cool. Read more and watch the entire video presentation by +Vic Gundotra (http://goo.gl/WUFbe4) Video starts at 13:00
RESHARE: The greatest risk of our times is not to risk (+Cecilia Abadie ) talks about her experience with #Glass after she became the first woman in history to get a ticket for what I call #DWWGG (Driving While Wearing Google Glass)
In this great video (I watch the whole ten minutes and I enjoyed every minute of it) +Cecilia Abadie compares our modern day life to the response that her cat would give to life threatening situation. "Life is like a game, but in order to win you don't have to collect all the coins; you might leave some for the others.Collect the bonuses and move forward" Says +Cecilia Abadie . In a few words the clear message is "don't be a scary cat when approaching your interaction with the world; be authentic and share yourself without fear" I love this message, because as I always say when I talk about my experience on +Google+ that +Sharing is Caring on G+ and not just on G+ but in the #Web20 . I have always believed in sharing my photos, my emotions, my feelings openly,and I thank a few friends who share the same thought with me, helping me managing the page i mentioned above +Jack C Crawford+Jo Anne Thomas +Mia Voss
The lives we lead are like a great big stage We put on masks everyday trying to seem different from what we really are, trying to please what others expect us to be like. Afraid to tell the truth, afraid to live our lives in full. In my life I have always struggled to be different,to be a "salmon upstream" because I am different. i want to be different. It isn't easy. People mistake your creativity, your will to go the other way from main stream as a weakness. I considered it my inner force, and this attitude has helped me survive the hard deals that life has dealt to me. I found this quote from a Shakespeare's play. I like it.
All the world's a stage...
Life is like a play - we merely go through the stages of our life acting it out.
From Shakespeare's As You Like It, 1600:
JAQUES: All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages. At first the infant, Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms. And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel And shining morning face, creeping like snail Unwillingly to school. And then the lover, Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad Made to his mistress' eyebrow. Then a soldier, Full of strange oaths and bearded like the pard, Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel, Seeking the bubble reputation Even in the cannon's mouth. And then the justice, In fair round belly with good capon lined, With eyes severe and beard of formal cut, Full of wise saws and modern instances; And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts Into the lean and slipper'd pantaloon, With spectacles on nose and pouch on side, His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide For his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice, Turning again toward childish treble, pipes And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all, That ends this strange eventful history, Is second childishness and mere oblivion, Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.
Forgive me for re-posting this once-in a lifetime moment but as the Olympic Games are about to take off I can't forget what a marvellous experience it was to carry the Olympic Fire The year was 2006 during the Turin-Italy Winter Olympic Games. The torch was carried across Italy by ten thousands Torchbeares (Tedofori). I did my 400 meter dash. At the end, my eyes were wet, and the skies were blue.
I joined back in July 2011. #MyPlusStory begins back then. I kind of miss the first layout and the sense of "pionneristic feeling* that was among First Generation Users. Many things have changed since. Google has made us ready for changes in an ever changing social networks struggle to be the best, the most innovative, the one with the best features.
I still remember the first hangouts, there was a group of people that I met and +Sarah Hill invited me to be the first Italian Gplusser to be on her show as she was broadcasting from her TV station in Missouri +KOMU 8 News . Sarah lauched a Hangoot from her newcast and gave great visibility to the new +Google+ feature, making it an instant winner on the web.
I remember +chee chew struggling with +Katherine Gramann trying to understand what were the features that we as user needed implemented for a better service.
I created a circle of #Musketters that is almost 700 strong today. Some of the best Gplussers in that circle.
It seems like ten years have gone by since. I managed to spend five to six hours a day five days a week, trying to be always up to date on all the changes that were proposed almost daily.
It was like playing a video game with new rules that changed constantly. The stream was one and you could get almost instant interaction with everyone.
I posted phots and shared other Plussers post. I realized that the real POWER of this Social Network was not the 1+ plussing of their posts but the SHARING. When you share someone's content you show that you care about the post and the person behind it, so I created a page called +Sharing is Caring on G+ (logo designed by +Iván Sánchez de Miguel ) so that I could share everyone's posts at will, given that the content was "clean" and readable by anyone.
Last year I met in person one of the best Gplusser I have ever met +Jack C Crawford who helped me a lot with the launch of my interview show +You Are The Star (for FIVE minutes) . I started this show as soon as I was granted access to HOA (Hangout on Air) and started interviewing great people who were willing to spend some time on AIR telling their stories.
I could go on forever. These were some of my most active two years on the web. I just wish that things stayed a bit like they were last year. Communities have broken up the stream into many small streams and the interaction seems to have suffered , but things must move on into new realms so we will adjust to the new (even the new Hangout layout that changed too much from the one we were used to).
Thanks to +Google+ for giving us the opportunity of this new platform, and even if I do't like the changes I must say that you are still the best to be on when on the Web
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To celebrate, we're launching My Plus Story, a campaign designed to tell our favorite Plus stories, yours. From astronauts to zoo keepers and everyone in between, we want to hear from you. Share your story of how Google+ has impacted your life using the hashtag #MyPlusStory and each week we'll highlight someone new from the page!
The story behind the photo. Last Summer I went hiking with my daughter in the beautiful wonder of the #Dolomites (if you are not familiar with the most beautiful peaks of #Veneto see the link www.dolomites.com)
We went on a trial and after a few hours we stopped for a dish of spaghetti with mushrooms. The small restaurant had a wooden patio outside. The sun was shining. There were many black butterflies (like the one on my forehead it's real not a photoshop )
As one friendly butterfly stopped on my head,my daughter snapped this photo of me. I am so very happy that she loves photography in her early age like I do. I think the "virus" has been passed, and is there to stay with her like it did for me. Something one cannot do without.
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
Conceal your Intentions
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.
Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life
Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.
Court Attention at all Cost
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.
Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit
Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.
Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usual y an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.
Liquid Traffic Miami circa 1982. I set this as my new profile's background on +Google+ It is my all time favourite and there is a story behind it. The photo was taken with a Nikon FM2 Manual Camera with a 100 ISO film. I was driving North on US 441, it was raining. I turned on my favourite Jazz station and I placed the camera on the dashboard (don't do this at home lol) on the B (bulb) setting. f/8. 35 seconds. I sped up. Top of photo: You can see the green/yellow/red stream of the traffic light changing Left : White stream= headlights of incoming cars Center: If you look close enough you can almost read the tag of the car in front of me Bottom: The circle you see is the reflection of the traffic light changing on the hood of my taxi. I just love this photo because it will be impossible to take again with the same results. I'd love to hear your comments on this one. Thanks
Walk of Faith: Glass Pavement in China If you have nerves of steel, then you should definitely try out this newly built glass walkway in China, called the Walk of Faith. Glass Plank Road has been added 1,430 metres (4,690ft) up the Zhangjiajie Tianmen mountain to give the tourists an unforgettable sightseeing experience. YouTube : Walk of Faith Glass Pavement China
Don't turn your back on the homeless As my last day of the year first post I would like to call your attention on the homeless. Most of us have a job, a place to stay warm,some affection from people who love us. Let us not turn our back to those in need. There are thousand of charities out there. Most of them are really honest people trying to help others, in other cases some are preying on the good hearts. If you pass by a homeless person today, please give him/her a few bucks,talk to him/her, take them with you (if you have the courage) to eat a real breakfast or ,lunch. He /she will feel great and I guarantee you that the feeling you 'll get from doing something like that will jump start your New Year to be the best one.
The Story behind a photo. In 1987 King Hussein of Jordan and his wife Noor visited #Venice . I was just beginning my photojournalistic road. I was really excited about the event and when the photo agency I was working for sent me there, my heart was pounding as I felt the relevance that such an event was going to have on the morning paper the next day.
I check and double check my equipment. My film, my flash, my spare camera. Everything was ok. I was ready for it!
The Royals went to Palazzo Labia, a palace owned by the State television RAI to see the "Tiepolo" paintings on its walls and ceiling.
I followed them here and when I was ready to shoot I realized that my flash cable was damaged and that I would have not been able to shoot with it.
I panicked . Holy smoke! I could not let this happen now, please, not today! I had to find a solution and I came up with the idea that saved: the photo shoot my life with the photo agency my future career as a photographer for the press.
Here is what I did: I had a 400 ASA (ISO) B&W film in the camera. I disconnected the flash I "pushed" the film to 800 ASA (ISO) . I checked on my setting and 800 ASA wasn't enough as they were moving a bit and the shutter indicated 30' (not enough for a steady shot) I could not push the film to 1600 ASA as it would have been too grainy.
The solution came on the wings of a Television camera. As the RAI Italian TV cameraman turned and pointed his camera to the couple, a ray of white light came to the rescue. The shutter jumped to 125' and I was able to take this and a few other pictures. My life and my career were saved.
Reshared text: Mt. Everest, Mt. Kilimanjaro, Mt. Elbrus and Aconcagua -- now on Street View!
Be sure to tune back to our G+ page in an hour (today at 10:00 am PT) for our exclusive Hangout on Air where we’ll share stories from our expeditions and answer questions about this special collection. Leave your questions for the Hangout in the comments section below. enjoy!
Reshared text: I do so much like this quote from +pio dal cin in his article.
I like to think of G+ like I would of a city that is being built. A new frontier’s outpost where we are the pioneers of a new generation, a new era in communications. Google provides us with a place to stay, (our profiles) and a few tools (hangouts, unlimited posts, ability to create pages). It is up to me now, to build my interactions, my relationships, my groups of trustworthy friends, or just acquaintances like I would in any new City. That is how I feel about Google Plus now, almost one year after it went public.
Street Photography 101#LosAngeles homeless. Do you think that street photography is easier that war photography? Not always. I took these photos in LA in 1994. I was driving in the downtown area and I spotted this group of homeless. I knew that it wasn't going to be a walk in the park trying to take their picture.
I could have easily taken the pictures with a long zoom without letting them know what I was doing, but I though that it would have not been right to do so. I said to myself " Hey Pio, this cannot be worst that trying crossing a bridge with landmines" so I stepped out of the car and walk right towards the group pointing and shooting.
They saw me, but their reaction wasn't violent as I could have expected. Instead they decided to show me the finger and "some more".
All these photos are in colour. I was shooting film back then and when I found out that I could print a color film in B&W in my darkroom I start always shooting color film (usually 100 ASA/ISO) so that if I needed color I had it as well as B&W without the hassle of changing the film or carrying a second camera in particularly dangerous area where running a bit faster can mean the difference between life or death.
So I'm publishing these photos (two in B&W one in colour) and let you choose which version you prefer.
Reshared text: TENDER MOMENT Between Man And His Sick Dog In Lake Superior
Schoep, 19-year-old dog, has arthritis and has trouble sleeping. His owner, John Unger, found that water is therapeutic for his pained buddy, so he takes Schoep into Lake Superior and lulls him to sleep.
Venice July 15th 1989 Pink Floyd in Venice (http://goo.gl/fBTbFt) The concert was free and attracted 250K people. The People you see on the first picture were packing #StMarkSquare at 9 am. The concert was to start at 10pm. Earlier we were called to the Pink Floyd's press conference (second photo). The concert was something else. The stage (you can see it on photo 1 between the two buildings) was set out in the middle of the #Lagoon . People were just everywhere, there wasn't a free centimeter around the concert area as boats flocked like seagulls to see the #PinkFloyd . The day after was a terrible view for the people of #Venice . Trash and dirt everywhere. "Never Again in the history of the city" This won't happen anymore. Concerts like this are now banned . Still it was something that was just unique and hard to describe. Another incredible gift of my love for photography.
Heavy rains and high tides have brought some of the worst flooding to Venice, Italy in years. People sit at a table in a flooded Piazza San Marco in Venice, on November 11, 2012. (AP Photo by Luigi Costantini)
The world's longest bridge fountain that set a Guinness World Record with nearly 10,000 LED nozzles that run along both sides that is 1,140m long, shooting out 190 tons of water per minute. Installed in September 2009 on the Banpo Bridge, Seoul mayor Oh Se-hoon praised that the bridge will further beautify the city and showcase Seoul's eco-friendliness, as the water is pumped directly from the river itself and continuously recycled. The bridge has 38 water pumps and 380 nozzles on either side, which draw 190 tons of water per minute from the river 20 meters below the deck, and shoots as far as 43 meters horizontally.
Reshared text: His Holiness the Dalai Lama will join in a live conversation with Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and Sir Richard Branson to honor the life and legacy of Nelson Mandela, moderated by CNN’s Anderson Cooper on Friday, December 13 at 7:30am EST / 2:30pm SAST hosted by PeaceJam and the Nelson Mandela Centre of Memory. To join the conversation, share your questions via #MandelaTribute
For times in your region 7:30am EST on December 13th in New York City, USA is the same as 2:30 SAST on December 13th in South Africa; 6:00pm IST on December 13th in New Delhi, India; and 12:30pm GMT on December 13th in London, England.
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
Reshared text: Google+ Update:Mr. Jingles aka Notifications Just Got Better!!
Now you can find an 'Everything else' inside your notifications widget. Here's what Google says about it: These notifications fall out of your current settings for who can notify you.
Personally, I think this is cool as now I can see the mentions outside my circles and other notifications. I did control the settings to not get mentions and other notifications from outside my circle thinking it might bombard Mr. Jingles. But sometimes, yes, I wanted to see those too.. with this change, you don't get notified, but you can see it at the bottom of your notifications. I think this is a better control to the whole notification system. Well done, Google+!!
I hope the issues with notifications (a lot of plussers including myself were not getting notifications properly) were due to the update and now all is well and better :-)
We have had a couple of days to get used to the new look that has sprung up on our videos. I know there are things that were much better before and others that are better now but, based on your G+ experience what is your Overall Impression? I am not looking for suggestions or critiques, but just for ONE SIMPLE ANSWER 1) YES (if you give it thumb up) 2) NO (if you give it thumb down) no gladiators will be executed if you do
Affter you post your answer please name as many people as you want so that they can participate too... Happy sunday everyone.